Life is indeed funny come to think of it. It brings you up, then it brings you down. You feel loved, then feel anger, remorse, betrayal, helpless, used.. after that it all comes back to being peachy and cuddly and warm again.
Maybe the fact that there are things we can and cannot control. What happens to us as a result of other people's behaviours and feelings are things that we cannot control. What we can control is how we act and feel towards it. Gosh easy to say than do. I have had my share of catastrophes and disasters.
But now I am at an age where I can teach this experience and values to the younger ones. My eldest is becoming more mature and immature in some ways. I need to coach him in life and to not feel that all things are beyond our control. Some can still be managed if we put our minds into it.
A friend gave this to hubby just last month. The 90/10 principle. It has resurfaced again because the last time I read it was a few years back. Just to share in this post..
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react..
Scenario A.
Coffee spilled on your shirt/blouse
- You shouted at your kid for spilling it - they cry - miss the bus to school etc
- You shouted at your wife/husband for putting it too close to the edge of the table - grudge that will last the whole day
- And for spending so much time on shouting - you got delayed in changing - had to send your kid to school - late to work - boss is not amused - there goes your bonus
Come back home - stressed from a bad day at work - spouse is still upset - kid is still hurt thus do not want to talk to you - and you end up having dinner in front of the tv ALONE
Scenario B
Coffee spilled on you
- Calm down and tell kid to be careful next time - kid gets it and got ready to school (they bound to do it again, but of course unintentionally
- Changed on time - managed to hug your kid before they go up the bus - kiss your spouse good bye - arrive work on time - and a productive day it was
- Come back from work - good chatty session with kid - hugs, kisses and everything lovey dovey from spouse - and a good night sleep to end the day
So a good lesson for the day. To react negatively sometimes comes naturally for a person. Thus to break the habit would be an uphill, but the trick is to step back for a while, reflect on the moment then react.
Maybe the fact that there are things we can and cannot control. What happens to us as a result of other people's behaviours and feelings are things that we cannot control. What we can control is how we act and feel towards it. Gosh easy to say than do. I have had my share of catastrophes and disasters.
But now I am at an age where I can teach this experience and values to the younger ones. My eldest is becoming more mature and immature in some ways. I need to coach him in life and to not feel that all things are beyond our control. Some can still be managed if we put our minds into it.
A friend gave this to hubby just last month. The 90/10 principle. It has resurfaced again because the last time I read it was a few years back. Just to share in this post..
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react..
Scenario A.
Coffee spilled on your shirt/blouse
- You shouted at your kid for spilling it - they cry - miss the bus to school etc
- You shouted at your wife/husband for putting it too close to the edge of the table - grudge that will last the whole day
- And for spending so much time on shouting - you got delayed in changing - had to send your kid to school - late to work - boss is not amused - there goes your bonus
Come back home - stressed from a bad day at work - spouse is still upset - kid is still hurt thus do not want to talk to you - and you end up having dinner in front of the tv ALONE
Scenario B
Coffee spilled on you
- Calm down and tell kid to be careful next time - kid gets it and got ready to school (they bound to do it again, but of course unintentionally
- Changed on time - managed to hug your kid before they go up the bus - kiss your spouse good bye - arrive work on time - and a productive day it was
- Come back from work - good chatty session with kid - hugs, kisses and everything lovey dovey from spouse - and a good night sleep to end the day
So a good lesson for the day. To react negatively sometimes comes naturally for a person. Thus to break the habit would be an uphill, but the trick is to step back for a while, reflect on the moment then react.
Hi!
Good reminder for parents out there. A short pause, inhale and smile can work wonders :-) Thx for sharing!
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