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Many a times relatives, friends and even strangers have asked me - so are you working, where do you work, you are not working today? What is my answer? - Oh, I'm not working anymore, I have my own business, I am a housewife (especially to cut short a conversation). I remember not so long time ago, one particular relative told me to do something part time at least or to work instead of sitting at home. She was actually referring to people's perception (negative obviously) if I say that I was a house wife.
You see, a few months after graduating I had set up my own home business. I had a cosy little bookstore that I myself had expanded from merely just selling to actually distributing books and magazines to 5 other different shops. It was a hectic business but I managed it along side my first born that time. I remembered I had him sleeping at the back of my shop while I worked long hours to the night. I remembered bringing him around on my distribution trips in the morning. But also I remembered him crying one time in the bookstore and banging on the door to let him out (well I went to the washroom for a while and I locked the door with him sleeping inside). It was quite tough indeed.
That was 7 years ago. I left that business to join Shell, thereafter Sunway and finally another company in Glenmarie. I only lasted 3 years in between those jobs. I knew that my forte' was doing my own business on my own time and pace.
So here I am back to where I started. Actually I am more like the kaki and tangan of my hubby's because he is the initiator (and the brains) of most of the projects we are doing. I maintain and follow up. Which constitutes a big chunk of it. But of course without my hubby's marketing and initiation, there would not be anything to handle in the first place anyway. So a big credit goes to him as well.
However there are times when I would slack. To be a WAHM is to be a superwoman. Plus with my low self-confidence at the wrong time, I tend to mess things up. I go into Mummy mode and leave the Working Woman part of me behind. I mean I can afford to mess the work part up, but my role as a mother is too important and should be prioritised at all times.
A typical day for me:I wake up at 6am to prepare my eldest for school. Breakfast etc. Before going back to bed with my baby, I water the plants for 1/2 hour. I wake up by 9am. Things get very hectic if I have to do errands outside. This is usually on-call. Like this week I was up from 6am till a little after midnight to make sure everything is done (bank work, new tenants, repairs etc). Mind you, I bring the BABY with me. Of course it takes the whole day. Diaper change, feeds, cries, lunches in the car, exhaustion. However I did enjoy his company especially when I get his good moods. Angelus comes back from tuition at 6pm, of which I would prepare dinner for him. That would be around 7.30 plus. He goes to sleep at 9.30 or latest 10. Baby is asleep already. Then the housework continues. I clean the kitchen, do the laundry, feed the dog etc. Then only comes ME time. Which revolves to ME and hubby time when he is at home. Unfortunately I get so used to having Me time on my own only until sometimes hubby feels neglected. Poor baby.
I have to admit that Rov gets most of my attention. However I have to give my eldest son a thumbs up because instead of going out to play with his friends or watching tv, he stays with his brother to take care of him. I am truly blessed in that.
One thing also of being a WAHM. I do not really get to mingle around with a lot of people thus my people skills has literally gone down the drain. So I turn to FB. I really thank this technology because it has kept me sane during my confinement of which had made me so addicted to it till now. Alleluia.
Also God was always there whenever I felt stressed, tense, pressured and lonely. That is the word. To not have any adult conversation except to my hubby (what happens if we had an argument? :) ) can be quite frustrating. So I turned to God, and He is always there.
Amen to that.
You see, a few months after graduating I had set up my own home business. I had a cosy little bookstore that I myself had expanded from merely just selling to actually distributing books and magazines to 5 other different shops. It was a hectic business but I managed it along side my first born that time. I remembered I had him sleeping at the back of my shop while I worked long hours to the night. I remembered bringing him around on my distribution trips in the morning. But also I remembered him crying one time in the bookstore and banging on the door to let him out (well I went to the washroom for a while and I locked the door with him sleeping inside). It was quite tough indeed.
That was 7 years ago. I left that business to join Shell, thereafter Sunway and finally another company in Glenmarie. I only lasted 3 years in between those jobs. I knew that my forte' was doing my own business on my own time and pace.
So here I am back to where I started. Actually I am more like the kaki and tangan of my hubby's because he is the initiator (and the brains) of most of the projects we are doing. I maintain and follow up. Which constitutes a big chunk of it. But of course without my hubby's marketing and initiation, there would not be anything to handle in the first place anyway. So a big credit goes to him as well.
However there are times when I would slack. To be a WAHM is to be a superwoman. Plus with my low self-confidence at the wrong time, I tend to mess things up. I go into Mummy mode and leave the Working Woman part of me behind. I mean I can afford to mess the work part up, but my role as a mother is too important and should be prioritised at all times.
A typical day for me:I wake up at 6am to prepare my eldest for school. Breakfast etc. Before going back to bed with my baby, I water the plants for 1/2 hour. I wake up by 9am. Things get very hectic if I have to do errands outside. This is usually on-call. Like this week I was up from 6am till a little after midnight to make sure everything is done (bank work, new tenants, repairs etc). Mind you, I bring the BABY with me. Of course it takes the whole day. Diaper change, feeds, cries, lunches in the car, exhaustion. However I did enjoy his company especially when I get his good moods. Angelus comes back from tuition at 6pm, of which I would prepare dinner for him. That would be around 7.30 plus. He goes to sleep at 9.30 or latest 10. Baby is asleep already. Then the housework continues. I clean the kitchen, do the laundry, feed the dog etc. Then only comes ME time. Which revolves to ME and hubby time when he is at home. Unfortunately I get so used to having Me time on my own only until sometimes hubby feels neglected. Poor baby.
I have to admit that Rov gets most of my attention. However I have to give my eldest son a thumbs up because instead of going out to play with his friends or watching tv, he stays with his brother to take care of him. I am truly blessed in that.
One thing also of being a WAHM. I do not really get to mingle around with a lot of people thus my people skills has literally gone down the drain. So I turn to FB. I really thank this technology because it has kept me sane during my confinement of which had made me so addicted to it till now. Alleluia.
Also God was always there whenever I felt stressed, tense, pressured and lonely. That is the word. To not have any adult conversation except to my hubby (what happens if we had an argument? :) ) can be quite frustrating. So I turned to God, and He is always there.
Amen to that.
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